Plans for Seperation

The 'just friends' thing seems to be working out ok so far...
She has asked me if I missed her after work, I'm not sure if that was some kind of test, to see if I really meant it, or just her wanting to feel special. She likes to feel special. I told her 'in a friend way'.
Last night she asked what was going to happen after 'the visit' if she didn't go with the other woman... I said we will just have to see, but I honestly don't think we should or can be more than friends again, because I don't love her that way anymore, and don't know if I ever could. Don't think I could. She said that she doesn't love me that way at the moment either. I'm not sure if she meant it, or if she was just saying it hoping it would hurt. I hope she meant it.
We agreed that if they did not end up working out, that we would continue to live together until the end of the lease on this house, if possible without problems.
For our daughters sake, and because neither of us have anywhere else to conveniantly go, nor can either of us afford to pay the rent alone.

I asked what her plans were if they did work out, said I kinda need to know, because we have to divide our stuff, our pets, figure out what to do about our daughter...
She agreed that we need to figure that out, especially when I pointed out that if she up and left, moved to England, or whatever, I would be left with a big mess to clean up.
She said that she would never have done it like that, that she doesn't want to screw me over, doesn't want to lose my friendship. I am the only person that understands her, who can understand her.... The only person that can ease her fears and tell her why she has those fears and the other woman would have to deal with her and I remaining friends.
Same goes for whoever I have a relationship with in the future.
Despite the problems that we had because we probably really never should have been more than friends, we have been through a lot together, we have been through a lot with each others families, so much that we consider each others family our own. Nothing and no-one can replace or dismiss what we have experienced together... Pain, loss, greif...

So anyway.. We spend quite some time discussing what will happen if they work out, who gets what, how to deal with the house, our child, our pets.
I also told her that I really hope things work out for her with the other woman, that it seems she might be better off with her.
She has a lot of doubts that it will though, which is probably why she was holding onto me so tightly, lying so much, when I was trying to pull away.
The other woman is a lot like me, apparently, but without the ability to understand others, and with an even worse temper.
She said she needs the understanding that only I seem capable of, needs me to calm her fears, help her through her anxiety.
I told her, that is something I can do as a friend, and in many ways might be able to do better that way. She looked as if that hadn't really occurred to her before. Looked relieved.

So it seems things are working out well now... We have established that we are better off as friends, started working out who gets what if we go our seperate ways, she knows I want her relationship with the other woman to work out, which should make it clear to her that I do not want her back.
And she seemed to deal with it all well. No anger, no lies, no desperation.
I feel good, happy.... It is a strange unfamiliar feeling.