The Questions

So.. I've written a letter, with questions... Most of which i already know the truthful answers to... I have worded them carefully so that if she lies, I will know, and I have proof of the ones that I know the truthful answers to.
If she lies I will tell her I know she is lying.. give her one more chance to tell me the truth... If she continues to lie... Then I'm not sure if I will show her the proof... (because she will be so angry lol) Or whether I'll just say.. Well, I guess this is it then.. I know you are lying, I have no doubt.. I just wish you could have told me the truth and maybe explained why you did it.

The letter is as follows...

I need to ask you some questions. I know I have asked most of them before.
I need you to answer them truthfully. All of them, and I mean it, I really do.
Do not assume that I will not know if you are lying, in fact, assume I will know. Don't underestimate me.
I'm begging you, to tell me the truth.

If you have any respect for me, for what we've had, what we've gone through together, if any moment of the last 5 1/2 years have meant anything to you... Tell me the truth.
If you are scared that I will become violent, that I would hurt you, rest assured, that I will not.
I would walk away if I felt aggressive...
I would kill myself before I hurt you.
Because I DO love you. I always have, I always will.
Of course that doesn't mean we will always be together.
For that would require both of us to love each other, and no-one else.
That would require honesty, trust.

Keep in mind that if you are lying to me now, and continue to lie to me, right through to when (the other woman) comes or until I catch you out, whichever comes first, we will not be able to be friends. Our entire relationship will revolve around (our foster daughter). Assuming one of us still has her.
If you are lying to me, and you stop now, then maybe we can still be friends. I hope so. I don't want to lose you completely. And the other day you told me you didn't want to lose me.
Were you being honest then?
I just hope you take this as seriously as I mean it.
Anyway... Onto the questions I guess....

Please read them carefully and answer truthfully.

Have you told (the other woman) that you will leave me?

Have you told (the other woman) that you love her?
(and I don't mean the way you say 'love u' to friends)

Have you told (the other woman) that you are not happy with me?

Have you discussed details of OUR arguments/disagreements with (the other woman)?

Have you discussed your feelings for and possible plans of the future with (the other woman) - with your mother?

Have you discussed your future with (the other woman) if/when you are with her? (discussed with [the other woman] I mean)

Have you ever had any form of cybersex/phonesex (you get the drift) with (the other woman)?
And if so, have you masturbated while doing so?

If you answered yes to any of these, when were you planning on telling me? (if ever)

And after I have your answers, I might have more questions, in an attempt to understand.